Inappropriate Attraction

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Fictional inappropriate attractions interest me. They’re something I want to explore in All About Eve. Why do we sometimes feel these inappropriate attractions? How do we deal with them? What are the consequences? Either way (go with or sublimate) there’s a price to pay.

Inappropriate attraction is not something we ask for or even want. It’s just there and must be dealt with — one way or the other. I’ve always assumed that everyone at some point in their life finds themselves in the grips of a mystifying crush. I’ve had my share, with varying degrees of severity. None of them ruined my life or anything, although they have often forced me to take a closer look at my situation. I’m the type who always tries to analyze why the heck this thing is happening to me.

One of the ways I analyze things is by writing about them.

Anyway, plenty of people in the critique group admitted that Eve’s inappropriate attraction to Mark turned them right off. They didn’t like that about her. Eve doesn’t like it much herself, either, although you really can’t tell that from this scene.

Probably the biggest objection I heard was that having married people feel attracted to anyone but their husbands is not something that happens in romance novels. Second to that, they just didn’t feel sympathy for a character who would have these feelings.

It’s true that the romance genre does not address adultery or even adulterous feelings except as a defect of an unsympathetic character. This strikes me as somewhat puritanical, but then that’s just me. And anyway, although I’m a member of RWA, I don’t exactly write romances. The innappropriate attraction issue is just one of the ways my work goes outside the boundaries of romance.

Which is really a marketing thing and not a writerly thing. In some ways, my work is deeply romantic — I always have a love story — and in other ways it just doesn’t fit the genre. But that’s okay. I write what I find interesting, not what I think will sell. Which is why not having to be published comes in handy.

I fell in love with RWA and the romance community because of their wonderfully supportive environment. They are female friendly and then some. Being a part of that community is like nothing I’ve ever felt before. And I don’t have to give it up. Plenty of members write outside the parameters. The chick lit types get to have more than one boyfriend, or no boyfriend at all. The women’s fiction people also have more romantic choices and freedoms, featuring stuff like divorce and so forth.

But when I think about it, nowhere in the romance community is there space for a cheatin’ heart. And apparently, readers don’t even want such stuff hinted at. At least when it comes to heroines. Which both surprised me and didn’t. As someone who comes from the academic/literary school of fiction, adultery to me seems like a perfectly acceptable and even interesting theme. Yes, adultery is not nice and it ruins lives and so forth. But it’s got great conflict potential, both internal and external.

Not that Eve has an affair. She doesn’t even really think about it. She just feels some inappropriate feelings. Which of course is sometimes the precursor to infidelity, but not always. Not most of the time, I bet. I bet it’s perfectly normal for people to have these kinds of feelings. Right? Or is it just me?

Some statistics: 80% of the novels bought in America are purchased and read by women. 50% of all fiction purchased is romance. Surprised? I’m not. But taking those stats to a dubious conclusion, I’m sort of surprised that half of the women in America do not want to read about inappropriate attraction. They don’t even want to acknowledge it exists.

Which is also interesting.

  1. Kate Avatar
    Kate

    Barbara Delinsky has a romance with a cheating heart in it–late 80s, I think. I’m reading it now, 2 word title and can’t remember what it is! Hope you had a great holiday.

  2. Pioneer Melissa Avatar

    I just recently started writing my first novel so I’m speaking from the viewpoint of someone behind you on this writing road but I want to offer you some good cheer from here.

    The only way I even got started writing my novel (after years of false starts and self-doubt) was to let go of all preconceived notions of what sells, what’s right or wrong, anyone else’s expectations…. and just write the story as it unfolded — allow nothing else into the equation but the story itself. Just write– and fight off the goblins (doubts and critics) with a stick.

    As I started writing, stuff came out that I never expected (and could have never intentionally dreamed up). Some of it is a wonderful surprise, and some of it goes against my moral grain. Ta-da! It’s that stuff that *makes* the story (providing a good base of conflict and inner torment for the main characters). I’m saying this because I want to encourage you to let your story come pouring out exactly as it needs to — and ignore the outer (and inner) critics for now. Don’t write for a specific slot unless you just want to write other people’s books. If your goal is to have *your* own works published, dare to be unique, dare to say stuff that some of your preliminary readers have felt uncomfortable with. GO FOR IT! If there’s a powerful extramarital affair sitting there waiting to unfold — WRITE IT! I’m fearful that these early critques are about to snuff your candle. Forget them. Rewrite/continue writing your story exactly as you want it to be, exactly as you know it is. Dare to let it go where it goes. Capture it in true Cynthia form and it will be your best work. You have come this far working on your writing — now is not the time to let anyone discourage you. Write the story exactly as you know it. The rest will take care of itself (publishing genre, audience etc.).
    I’m cheering for you!
    I hope this is helpful. If it’s in the cards, let the affair begin! 🙂 Write a truthful, compelling story and I’ll buy it any time.

  3. Barb Pollak Avatar
    Barb Pollak

    Cynthia, I’m on the same critique group and sadly, I haven’t gotten around to critiquing your entry on the loop, although I certainly read it. (I also haven’t read the others’ comments, since I make a habit of avoiding them until after I’ve made my own.) Having read your entry though, I’m sorry I didn’t send my comments sooner. While you may not think so, to me , it’s quite clear that Eve isn’t actively pursuing this attraction, at least, not at the outset. She’s responding to it, yes, but what human being doesn’t? Your comment about many of the readers being loathe to accept the idea of one feeling attraction towards someone who is not their spouse strikes me as puritanical as well. Fact is, we all respond to attraction, in one form or another. When someone receives a compliment on their appearance, for example, do they not preen a bit more- stand a bit straighter, throw their shoulders back a bit? Whether we like to admit it or not, that’s a different story.

    In a manner of speaking, you and I are in the same boat- my manuscript has an (at the outset) married hero for which an editor frankly said, “you’re brave.” I’m also a member of RWA who sometimes feels as if the organization doesn’t fit. While I am writing romance, it’s not romance in the manner that so many RWA members interpret it. (See aforementioned married hero *g*)

    Well, for what it’s worth, I truly enjoyed the entry and if you like, I’ll send you a more thorough critique. Just give a holler.

    Barb

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